Pourquoi? Why?
When we ask questions, do we always want to know the answers? Do we anticipate the answers? Do we hope for certain answers? Do we feel sticky about answers that may come that we are not really keen to hear, but we know are coming?
Why do we ask certain questions and why do we give certain answers?
In my world and universe it is all about the questions. Daily. Constantly. I love them. They are my basis for growth.
As I write this my ears start ringing…..It is always a spirit visiting, so I start asking questions.
Hello sacred one, why are you here today, what do I need to know? Who do I need to help or reach out to? What are you here to tell me? Why?
There are times I catch myself in a certain energy vibration good and bad …… sometimes I stop and ask myself how did I get here? What caused this? Why do I feel like this?
There are times (often) I read the plots or about the actors in movies or read past the “spoiler alert” section of an article... Why do I want to know what happens at the end? Why am I choosing to not be surprised, I love surprises…. Or often it’s my husband asking, “Why do you always do that?” (about the movies when we are 30 minutes in).
There are times I find myself choosing short term happiness rather than the long term gain a re-live a mistake again and again in the moment... Why did you do this I often ask? When did you decide to do this? Why can't I go back and change my mind?
The self talk and questioning is liberating and sometimes exhausting.
But for me questions are important. Pourquoi?
Let me divert for a moment and share a personal moment about a question I asked (over text). I asked my husbands opinion on something, and for those of you who are familiar with our relationship and especially when it comes to house decoration, I pretty much rule the coup. I do what I want, he is so laid back, but luckily he also adores "different" and I am super grateful that he loves the hot pink chairs in our family room as much as I do.
I wanted to get beads for our house to keep out flies. So I asked him his opinion. Things to do with house accessories, it is rare that I ask, I generally just buy. But I asked him a leading question. And he is a VERY honest person. And I knew when I asked the question I was also feeding into my shadow value of validation of choice (more about shadow values another time, incredible stuff). I knew the answer I wanted.
And it was that split second when I sent the message I wondered what would happen if he gave the answer I didn’t want. What would I do? I knew what I wanted and I was not really sure I wanted to hear the response I didn’t want.
This is how it went.......
I asked a question, then prepared and pondered a response I didn’t want to hear (I assumed he would choose bamboo) but I asked it anyway. What would I have done then?Why?
How is this relevant to spiritual transformation? To you reading this? Do you want it to be? Why?
Why do we ask questions we don't want the answer to?
Why do we ask questions when we don't have to ask them?
Why do you choose to ask certain questions?
How often do you ask questions of others and be open to the answer?
Why do you choose to do things in ways that either help or hinder your self in mind, body and soul?
Pourquoi? Why?
In my line of coaching we love the questions that being with “How” rather than “Why”. There is a train of thought in coaching that “Why” may stimulates a defensive response, however in some cases I think it can also evoke creative reflection and thinking.
So I ask you this, in this moment......
What was the last question that you asked to another person? How did you feel before you asked it? How did you feel after? Why did you ask it?
What was the last question that you asked yourself? How did you feel before you asked it? How did you feel after? Why did you ask it?
How are you navigating your own self talk? How are you navigating the feelings, moments in the woods (another blog) the situations you are in and the way that you feel and navigate before and after?
Why are you kind to yourself? Why are you self critical? Self questioning? Curious? Curt?
How did you make the decision to read this article? Is there something that resonates or just releases into insignificance from it?
Why do we choose to ask ourselves the hard questions? Why do we choose to be in the moment? Why do we choose to connect with others? Why do we choose to share and be love? Why do you choose the journey you are on?
Why is this moment all we have? All that counts? All that matters now?
Why are you, you?
Are you using questions to the best of their ability? Are you owning the intention of questions? How can you use questions as superpowers? Is that even a thing?
Why do you want to explore, question, clear emotions, find calm, breath into happiness and harmony?
Pourquoi? Or maybe Pourquoi Pas?* *(why not) With love, pondering and reflective awareness,
Amber - The Blissful Hippy xxx
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